Minsan akala
mo okay na lahat. After mo magpatawad, ginagawa mo lahat para makalimutan yung
past niya, yung ginawa niya sa’yo. You keep on trying to convince yourself that
he is the guy you’ll end up marrying and you’ll stick with him and fight for
your relationship until the end. Then the cycle began. After a mistake, you will
talk to each other, you forgive, set limitations, make an agreement then move
forward. That’s the way it should be. That’s what couples should do after a
fight, right? That no matter what happen, everything will be okay as long as
you love each other and you will both fight for your relationship.
Every single
day is a struggle after that. You have to convince yourself and put in your
mind that he is a changed man now and he will never do anything that will ruin
your relationship. Of course, you have to have an assurance from him every now
and then that you should feel secure with him and that he’s making everything
right. So every time you’ll see a fault from him, you’ll get paranoid that
maybe, he’s doing it again. “Doing” does not necessarily mean cheating. That “doing”
includes everything that may threaten the relationship. Ika nga, a real man will cut off any female that may threaten his
relationship with his woman. So kapag may mapapansin ka na mali niya or
anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, he’ll sometimes get mad. What if he
gets burned out or as what they are always saying na “nakakasakal na”. Is it
entirely the fault of the girl? I say, of course not. In the very first place, you
won’t get paranoid or have trust issues if he didn’t do anything at all. And now
he’s blaming you for not controlling your emotions or for not moving on from
the past. And oh, that’s the point, he kept saying “the past” when in fact, he
just did something days ago. Irony isn’t it? So for them, after making a fault,
you have to forgive and then move on. Parang in a snap of a finger, dapat ganun
kadali ang lahat.
Who would want
a relationship na lagi na lang away? Who would want to be paranoid all the
time? No one. We all want peace and happiness in our relationship. How we
resolve this kind of issue depends on how we want to end up things. By the way,
our action depends on how our partners are treating us. Depende na lang kung
martyr ka nang sobra at tanggap ka na lang ng tanggap na ikaw ang may mali ng
lahat. Selfless love daw dapat. Pero minsan nakakatanga na rin yan. Ano yun? Lagi
ka na lang iiyak at masasaktan pero magsstay ka sa relationship niyo kasi mahal
na mahal mo? Ever since, I’ve always believed that love is never enough to make
a relationship work.
So there, what
we’re doing right now mirrors of what they’ve done to us in the past. It may be
resolved already. You may have talked about it and agreed on certain things but
that’s not so easy to forget, babe. Kung ang sugat nga kahit naghilom na, may
maiiwan pang scar and it will take time before it disappears, ano pa kaya yung emotions
ng tao. So pumasok ka sa relationship, ang ganda mo,ang ganda ng perspective mo
sa buhay, and you’re full of positivity, you’re a strong woman, then your guy
committed a major mistake. Yeah, pinatawad mo, once, twice, thrice. Pero sabi
ko nga, hindi madali makalimot so you’ll have trust issues pa rin kahit anong
pilit mong maging okay ang lahat. And then, your guy will be irate with the way
you’re acting. And now, you’re at your worst. It’s not you anymore. You’ve
changed your rules. You’ve broken your principles because of love, because of
him. And now that you’re weak and broken because of him, he’ll get mad and
somewhat blame you because he said, it’s your own doing and it’s your choice,
and worst, he may eventually dump you. Sick irony of life right? –Shi,07/25/16
