Rough Roads

Yay. It’s been a long time since I visited my blog. So tada, that means, I’m in the mood to write again or rather, I need to let something out of my heart. LOL

So, eto na, seryoso na talaga. J

What if something crazy happened and your relationship with someone has been/may be/is going to be prejudiced? What should you do?

True love is hard to break. The stronger the bond, the harder it is to break. Trust and love- it goes hand in hand.

We may commit mistakes and relationships may be tested but that should also pass if those persons involved will choose to stay with each other and make it up to sustain their relationship.

However, these mistakes should not happen over and over again. If staying in the relationship will ruin both your lives, it is already unhealthy and it is time to let go.

My point is? Stay with someone if you both happy and there is full of love and trust. Leave the relationship if after the sacrifices, mending it up, saying sorry all over again, and making mistakes over and over again are getting useless because deep inside, you both know that the love you have with each other is fading.   

Indeed. :)

First time to use muzy.com and look what I've got! :) History of the picture? Nah, you don't wanna know. Sakit lang sa ulo. Haha. Some people are really thinking that they are the most intelligent ones on earth but hey, they don't know that most of the people around them see them as the most heartless and the most stupid   creatures ever made! :D

My Ranting

My ranting: (pagpasensyahan na) Ok, so I graduated already from college. And take note, I graduated on time even if almost everyday I'm always with my friends. I even got honors during my second year I think.

When will I be treated like an adult? Halos lahat bawal! I love my parents, don't get me wrong. And I don't wish of getting rid of them. I just need to let this out.

I was booked several days ago for CDO (Cagayan de Oro). That's a one week trip and I don't see anything wrong with it because I'm going to spend my own money and I'm with an all-girls group. Honestly, no guys are going to be there.

This is not the first time that we fought about my lifestyle. She always tells me to stop doing this and stop doing that. I don't do drugs by the way! I just love going out and it's within my means!

How I wish I can get out of my box. I miss my four years in Baguio where I can be who I want to be and I can do whatever I wanted to do. :(

Conversation tips to men who wants to attract women. :)

1. You should talk about “emotional” topics like childhood memories, future ambitions, or her passions. These conversation topics will open up her emotional floodgates.

2. Women want a guy who is not afraid to lead her. While talking to a woman take control of the conversation. Never wait for her to dictate what you’ll be talking about.

3. Pay attention to the non-verbal cues a woman is giving you. If you’re standing too close to her, accidentally spitting when you talk, or making her feel uncomfortable in any way… she will send you hints. Pay attention to them.

4. Remember this motto “Fun not Funny.” Women are attracted to men who allow them to have fun. Don’t concentrate on having the funniest jokes. Concentrate on showing them the most excitement and enjoyment.

5. Tease women. One of the easiest ways to take a conversation to a fun and flirty level is to begin to tease women. Think back to your time on the playground. In the world of dating… what worked on the playground is effective all over again.

6. Get intimate with her. Women are turned on by men who are not afraid to take a conversation to a personal, intimate level.

7. Use things like “cold reads” to turn women on. Women love to hear opinions about themselves. Tell her what you observe about her.

8. Avoid complimenting a woman too much. Women are turned off by men who come across as “needy.” If you are complimenting a woman too much she will think you’re trying to impress her. Which will have the opposite effect.

9. If you want to know how to talk to women in a way that doesn’t bore them… Avoid asking too many “interview” style questions.  Instead state your opinion about things.

10. Remember: Statements over questions. Instead of saying “where did you grow up?” Say “You don’t look like you grew up around here.” This allows you to make observations about her and express your personality.

11. Don’t hide your identity. Don’t be afraid to talk about whatever you’re passionate about.

12. Never compliment her on her eyes, looks, or body.

13. Say something that lets her know that you view her in a “sexual” way. If you don’t, you run the risk of winding up in the “friend zone”.

14. Use conversation “games” to keep the mood fun and flirtatious. Games can be anything like “truth or dare” or to less extreme games like the “5 questions game”.

15. Don’t give away your hand so fast. Women like men who are a challenge. If you want to keep a woman’s interest she has to feel like she is slowly winning you over. If she thinks you’re too easy… she’ll lose interest.

The best way to think about how to talk to women is to think about what kind of fun, playful, and sexual conversation you would most enjoy. Talking to a woman doesn’t have to be difficult. You just need to be aware of what they are turned on by and what turns them off. Follow the list above and you’ll do just fine. :D

SOURCE: lolfanatic.com

Migraine: Causes, Symptoms and Cure

I decided to write and research on migraine because it's pestering me, not only now, but I think forever. I've read an article over the net in the U.S. National Library of Medicine: A.D.A.M. Medical Encyclopedia a helpful article for me and for those who are suffering from migraine:

A migraine is a common type of headache that may occur with symptoms such as nausea, vomiting, or sensitivity to light. In many people, a throbbing pain is felt only on one side of the head.

Some people who get migraines have warning symptoms, called an aura, before the actual headache begins. An aura is a group of symptoms, including vision disturbances, that are a warning sign that a bad headache is coming.

Migraine headaches tend to first appear between the ages of 10 and 45. Sometimes they may begin later in life.

• Migraines occur more often in women than men
• Migraines may run in families
• Some women, but not all, may have fewer migraines when they are pregnant

A migraine is caused by abnormal brain activity, which can be triggered by a number of factors. However, the exact chain of events remains unclear. Today, most medical experts believe the attack begins in the brain, and involves nerve pathways and chemicals. The changes affect blood flow in the brain and surrounding tissues.

Alcohol, stress and anxiety, certain odors or perfumes, loud noises or bright lights, and smoking may trigger a migraine. Migraine attacks may also be triggered by:

• Caffeine withdrawal
• Changes in hormone levels during a woman's menstrual cycle or with the use of birth control pills
• Changes in sleep patterns
• Exercise or other physical stress
• Missed meals
• Smoking or exposure to smoke
  
  

Migraine headaches can be triggered by certain foods. The most common are:

• Any processed, fermented, pickled, or marinated foods, as well as foods that contain monosodium glutamate (MSG)
• Baked goods, chocolate, nuts, peanut butter, and dairy products
• Foods containing tyramine, which includes red wine, aged cheese, smoked fish, chicken livers, figs, and certain beans
• Fruits (avocado, banana, citrus fruit)
• Meats containing nitrates (bacon, hot dogs, salami, cured meats)
• Onions
  
  

This list may not include all triggers.

True migraine headaches are not a result of a brain tumor or other serious medical problem. However, only an experienced health care provider can determine whether your symptoms are due to a migraine or another condition.

Vision disturbances, or aura, are considered a "warning sign" that a migraine is coming. The aura occurs in both eyes and may involve any or all of the following:

• A temporary blind spot
• Blurred vision
• Eye pain
• Seeing stars or zigzag lines
• Tunnel vision
  
  

Other warning signs include yawning, difficulty concentrating, nausea, and trouble finding the right words.

Not every person with migraines has an aura. Those who do usually develop one about 10 - 15 minutes before the headache. However, an aura may occur just a few minutes to 24 hours beforehand. A headache may not always follow an aura.

Migraine headaches can be dull or severe. The pain may be felt behind the eye or in the back of the head and neck. For many patients, the headaches start on the same side each time. The headaches usually:

• Feel throbbing, pounding, or pulsating
• Are worse on one side of the head
• Start as a dull ache and get worse within minutes to hours
• Last 6 to 48 hours
  
  

Other symptoms that may occur with the headache include:

• Chills
• Increased urination
• Fatigue
• Loss of appetite
• Nausea and vomiting
• Numbness, tingling, or weakness
• Problems concentrating, trouble finding words
• Sensitivity to light or sound
• Sweating
  
  

Symptoms may linger even after the migraine has gone away. Patients with migraine sometimes call this a migraine "hangover." Symptoms can include:

• Feeling mentally dull, like your thinking is not clear or sharp
• Increased need for sleep
• Neck pain
  
  

Your doctor can diagnose this type of headache by asking questions about your symptoms and family history of migraines. A complete physical exam will be done to determine if your headaches are due to muscle tension, sinus problems, or a serious brain disorder.

There is no specific test to prove that your headache is actually a migraine. However, your doctor may order a brain MRI or CT scan if you have never had one before or if you have unusual symptoms with your migraine, including weakness, memory problems, or loss of alertness.

An EEG may be needed to rule out seizures. A lumbar puncture (spinal tap) might be done.

There is no specific cure for migraine headaches. The goal is to treat your migraine symptoms right away, and to prevent symptoms by avoiding or changing your triggers.

A key step involves learning how to manage your migraines at home. A headache diary can help you identify your headache triggers. Then you and your doctor can plan how to avoid these triggers.

If you have frequent migraines, your doctor may prescribe medicine to reduce the number of attacks. You need to take the medicine every day for it to be effective. Medications may include:

• Antidepressants such as amitriptyline or venlafaxine
• Blood pressure medicines such as beta blockers (propanolol) or calcium channel blockers (verapamil)
• Seizure medicines such as valproic acid, gabapentin, and topiramate

Botulinum toxin (Botox) injections may also help reduce migraine attacks.

TREATING AN ATTACK

Other medicines are taken at the first sign of a migraine attack. Over-the-counter pain medications such as acetaminophen,ibuprofen, or aspirin are often helpful when your migraine is mild. Be aware, however, that:

• Taking medicines more than 3 days a week may lead to rebound headaches -- headaches that keep coming back.
• Taking too much acetaminophen can damage your liver. Too much ibuprofen or aspirin can irritate your stomach.
  
  

If these treatments don't help, ask your doctor about prescription medicines. These include nasal sprays, suppositories, or injections. Your doctor can select from several different types of medications, including:

• Triptans -- prescribed most often for stopping migraine attacks
• Ergots -- contain different forms of ergotamine
• Isometheptene (Midrin)
  
  

Some migraine medicines narrow your blood vessels. If you are at risk for heart attacks or have heart disease, talk with your health care provider before using these medicines. Do not take ergots if you are pregnant or planning to become pregnant.

Other medications are given to treat the symptoms of migraine. They may be used alone or along with other drugs. Medications in this group include:

• Nausea medicines
• Sedatives such as butalbital
• Narcotic pain relievers 
  
  

Feverfew is a popular herb for migraines. Several studies, but not all, support using feverfew for treating migraines. If you are interested in trying feverfew, make sure your doctor approves. Also, know that herbal remedies sold in drugstores and health food stores are not regulated. Work with a trained herbalist when selecting herbs.

So there is goes. I wish there's really a treatment of this. Having migraine is ruining my life. It severely affects my daily routine. I need to stay in bed for several hours or days until it's gone. 

Night-Out

Maris texted what's the plan- I said I don't know either. So we ended up going to their meeting place- at Poco Deli's.

First stop is at Poco Deli, Kapitolyo, Pasig where we had red wine together with Ate Noemi, Sir Mac, Ate Techie, Armand, Maris, Tita Archie, Sam, Me, and Jc. Humabol lang kami dun after they had their meeting.

Second stop is at Juanito’s, just located near Poco Deli so we just walked going there. We had beers (the usual). We gotta talk about lots of things because the place is quiet and is a good place to chill and converse with your friends.

What do you think of having a LOVE SCHOOL? :D

I’ve been thinking about this since college, “that there should be a school for love.” LOL

But seriously, it always crosses my mind. Why? It’s because most of us have been ruined/being ruined/soon to be ruined when we didn't handle being in-love in the right way.

Love is very difficult to describe. This subtle feeling may occur because of a single look or how someone looks at you. Aminin, most of the time it is the physical appearance that that plays a huge role in being attracted to someone. Kung baga, it’s the starting point.

However, the physical attraction is not enough. It is also the spiritual and emotional mutuality of the partners. Therefore, if people do not vibe well with each other spiritually, physical attraction may wear off soon.

It is difficult to conceal love from others especially when the person you love is just beside you or within your social circle. People who know you well will immediately notice the difference in your attitude and in your aura whenever that person is near you. When you are ‘in love’ you cannot hide your feelings no matter how hard you try. You will end up expressing love one way or the other.

So, let’s now talk about my dream of having a love school. Why on earth have I thought of having such?

It’s because your school, career, family, friends, are affected when you get heartbroken. Yes, there should be a “love school” which I imitated from the term “law school” where teachers will teach the students how to handle relationships, cope up with separations, and how to love ones self. If everyone will be taught about these things, maybe, just maybe, the world will be full of “lovers”. Not the “lovers” that you’re thinking but my definition is:

Lover- a person who loves himself/herself; a person who loves and appreciates small things around him/her; a person who loves more and hates less.

They said that the feeling of being ‘in love’ is the most beautiful ever. But some would say that being ‘in love’ is the most painful thing that ever happened to them. A person ‘in love’ should be happy, secured, appreciative, and all the positive words. You will find that everything around you is bright, sunny, optimistic, happy, and so on. Being in love is a unique experience all human being should undergo. However, some are on the opposite side, they became hateful, unsecured, and unhappy. The latter should not be the supposed result of being ‘in love’. If it ends that way, then there is no love that binds you.

Anyway, this is just my thought. You may agree with me or you may not. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I know that each of us has different DNA patterns so we act, speak, feel, look, differently. It’s the way we handle ourselves anyway depending on the environment we have.

Everyone is Getting Married: So What?! :P

"Getting married" is being a trend. It started when I graduated in college and that was year 2009. 2013 na! That means, nadagdagan yung mga nagsipag-asawa sa batch ko nung elementary,high school, and college. And why am I saying this? It doesn't bother me, I hope so. LOL. I'm so fond of babies and wherever I go, if the parents are not that suplado or suplada, I'll go near them and play with their babies.

Getting married is a very serious stuff. You have to be SO ready before entering into the "married" status. I'm not jealous whenever I heard that someone I knew is getting married. I'm getting used to it as months pass by.

What are you entering into if you're getting married? That means you go home early for your husband/kids. You cut some of your gimiks, shopping, coffee dates, and other social responsibilities.

What is Marriage?

Marriage is the process by which two people who love each other make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce, legal separation, annulment, etc.

Marriage is supposed to be a union of two people in love. (But there are exceptions like fixed marriages) But like every great thing in life, marriage has its advantages and disadvantages. Here’s what I got from Yahoo. 

Advantages of Marriage

The ability to love and receive love in return. Marriage to someone you love gives you an avenue to channel all your love and attention especially for people who never really received love as children. Loving someone who loves you back is the greatest feeling most married people experience in their lives.

Research has shown that children raised by married couples do better than children raised by single parents. Most religions encourage raising kids in this (marriage) environment because it is believed to provide the necessary balance in the upbringing of children. Let's face it; it is easier for two people to raise kids than for one person to bear the burden of raising a kid(s) alone. Raising kids is tasking for two people let alone one person!

The best way to have great, wonderful and guiltless sex.

Marriage provides some sort of security (especially for women), having someone who loves and chooses to support you financially is also a great advantage (don't you think?).

To have someone to love unconditionally until death parts you.

Marriage provides you with a companion that you can grow old with and share your stories of the old days with.

Marriage helps you to be tolerant, unselfish and caring. Many married people can tell you for a fact that living with someone for the rest of your life is not one of the easiest things for anyone, especially if the other person is totally different from you.

Marriage helps you to be disciplined in your finances, time and your sexual libido is reserved for one person and one person alone (your wife or husband), period.

You have someone to share life's challenges, rewards and sorrows with, a person who actually knows what you are going through and feels the same way too.

You don't have to worry about the dating game any more, you don't have to worry that your hair line is receding or that your arse and thighs are getting bigger.

Disadvantages of Marriage

Sex with only one person for the rest of your life. For some people, it is unfair to have sex with only one person!

Everything you own belongs to her and vice-versa

The sacrifices or compromises you have to make in order to get along with your in-laws who particularly get on your nerves

You have to give up so much of your freedom in order to stay married

You cannot afford to spend your own money at will because you have a family to support

Having to live with the same person (who sometimes annoys or bores you to tears) for the rest of your life

You cannot afford to be selfish, self-centred, self-conceited and inconsiderate anymore

Marriage has lots of advantages and the disadvantages (if you choose) can be outweighed by the many advantages of marriage.

So there you go folks. To get married or not?! :P

Source: http://voices.yahoo.com/the-advantages-disadvantages-marriage-2989650.html

My Life, My Crisis

I'm getting used to having a good rest at home after work and not studying at night.
( I don't miss law school but I miss law school. >.<)

I'm getting used to the daily routine of going to work every morning and be part of the working class.

But something is missing. Do I really love what I'm doing? I'm craving for something and I still can't find it. I guess it's my career path. At the age of 24, I want to have a serious plan for my future. I'm still in a crisis of whether to pursue my law studies or find a job that I will enjoy.

I'm working in a law office but I'm looking for something more. Yes, guilty as charged, I'm still sending resume's to different companies for different job positions. I guess I'm doing this because I'm not contented with what I'm doing. I want a job that I will enjoy. And I'm still waiting for what they call, "the calling".

But anyway, I'm waiting and still enjoying somehow. I just hope that a great twist will happen in my life, a positive twist I mean. 

Good day y'all! :)